How to Pull Yourself Together
“Ouch, that hurts. Hmmm, I’ really having my doubts about myself right now. I don’t think that a human being can stand this amount of pain and stress….."
“Ouch, that hurts. Hmmm, I’ really having my doubts about myself right now. I don’t think that a human being can stand this amount of pain and stress. I don’t know what to do! I definitely do NOT feel the hand of a loving God right now!”
I’m sure you’ve had such an internal monologue from time to time in your life. We’ve all gotten stung good and it shook us to our roots.
For hope to prevail we have to keep in mind a few things:
1.The universe is absolutely just, call it karma. Nothing happens without an equal and opposite reaction. Somebody has just lied, cheated, or stole from you. Somebody just tore your heart out and laughed at you in your agony. Those people, by the inexorable law of justice of the universe will have the very same thing happen to them; and they may reel from the experience and say “why.” Sometimes bad things happen to us simply because we were unkind to others in the past.
2.Bad things happen to us, but they have a purging and cleansing effect on us. The pain we feel literally burns out the impurities of thought and feeling in us. Of course for this to happen means we have to “sit tight” for a day or two as the pain-fire is coursing through us, and we have to strive to keep ourselves from going off the deep end during that time.
3.There really is a method to the “madness” that seemingly defines our lives at times. If you look at the lives of people who have achieved greatness in their lives, and yourselves; that every so-called “bad” thing that happened to them/you had a undeniable molding and shaping influence on their/your life. It is almost as if our lives were a lump of clay and someone or something is pounding us into shape and something beautiful is coming out. Upon analyzing their lives it is almost as if those “bad” things HAD to happen in order for the greatness of these individuals to come out.
4.Everything that happens to us, especially the “bad” things; are teaching and enlightening experiences. We learn how things really work with people and in the world. We learn who are our real friends. We learn our limitations, and what we really want in life. We give up a few moments of comfortability or transitory peace in our lives; and we get illumination and wisdom in return. Pretty good deal!
There is a saying that it is always darkest just before the dawn, and that if we have faith and persevere through negative, upsetting, or difficult experiences that “this to shall pass.” Despair and depression cannot hang over us forever, their dark clouds eventually will be dispersed by the eternal Sun of our spirit.
We pull ourselves together by appreciating the order of the universe, and how we fit into it all in the most amazing ways. By thinking about these things we begin to feel the infinite compassion of the Creator of the Universe. We may not understand everything that is happening to us at the moment; but we can draw up the courage to ride out the storm of passing negative emotional cycles (which are always short-lived).
If we give up a little bit of our pride and selfishness, we don’t feel as offended by others in life as much as before; and we don’t feel so “hurt” by the experiences that happen to us from time to time. In the end we may be very “grateful” for those so-called “awful” things that happened to us.